As a child, I remember my day dreams always consisted of me being someone different. With all the entertainment on television and pictures in magazines; the ideal beauty standard was clear. Thin. White. Flat butts. Busty. When there was representation of Black women; the standard was also very clear. Light Skin.Slim.Curvy. Busty. Voluptuous rear end.…
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One of the challenges of being a visible fat body is being subject to all sorts of accusations about my lifestyle, my health and my right to exist happily. One charge that gets thrown around constantly is “you’re promoting obesity.” I always wondered how a fat person posting a cute outfit is somehow promoting a…
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At least not at the moment. In a world that is becoming more and more vocal about “self love”, “body positivity”, and “loving your flaws”, can I have an honest moment and say I’m struggling with that right now? I know, I know; it’s an unpopular opinion but I just have to be honest about…
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It’s quite the time to be alive and existing in a plus size body! I remember growing up and never really seeing plus bodies in magazines or media or television; unless of course a plus body was feeding into some negative stereotype about the norms of fat bodies. You know, being the comic relief, the…
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Let me begin by saying I realize that the things I’m getting ready to say might offend some. It might be a trigger, it might even make you want to not follow my social media. I just need you to know- that’s perfectly fine. I have been traveling through life in a plus vessel for…
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I remember my twenties like it was yesterday [queues melodramatic music]. Ok, so maybe my twenties wasn’t that long ago; but with all that’s happened in the last few years, my body certainly feels like it. In my twenties I felt like I had an unlimited reserve of energy and youthfulness, even with having…
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I remember the first time I heard the phrase “body positive” (bopo for short). I remember thinking to myself that it was sort of an awesome way to describe what I had been teaching myself for years. Social media has obviously created a larger than life platform for the message of self love and body…
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The past few years of my life, my health has really taken me on a journey. From mental health to physical health; it has been the roller-coaster ride from Hades. This past weekend I took a well earned and well deserved vacation and it was just what my life ordered. As I frolicked in the…
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Recently I was having a conversation with a friend and they told me that an old male friend of mine had quite a mouthful to say about body positive women and their ways. Now, what was intriguing to me is that this person was a man I used to date; which means clearly he has…
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When I first started blogging in the days of yore i.e MySpace, I remember just needing an outlet to say the things that were on my mind. I didn’t even know at the time that what I was doing was actually considered “blogging”. At that time in my life I felt like I had little…
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