33 Lessons in 33 Years

As I reflect on my 33rd year on this planet, I realize I’ve experienced a lot in a relative short amount of time. Below are 33 lessons I’ve personally learned in 33 years! 1. Mistakes will be made but they’re not to be dwelled upon. 2. Growth is a painful but productive necessity. 3. All…

Read More

To Live or Exist: How I’m Coping w/Chronic Pain

I remember laying on the table at the orthopedist’s office with nothing but a gown and panties on; wondering why I didn’t wear a cuter pair of panties and thinking ‘It can’t be too bad.’ But in my heart of hearts I knew it was that bad. For over a year I’ve had a debilitating…

Read More

Depression- The Unfashionable Side of Life

Whenever people ask “How are you?” I find myself wondering exactly how I should answer that polite greeting. You see, most of us know when people ask you that; they don’t mean it. It’s simply a way to say hello and appease a social quota that most of us feel obligated to ask. Because of…

Read More

Blogger Lessons: Stay True to YOU

Here it is only 6 days into 2018 and I already have something on my mind that I need to put into words. And that’s ok because that’s what I’ve been doing the entire time I’ve had a blogging career. I do a lot of thinking; hard to believe sometimes since I have so much…

Read More

Her Story: Tiffiany

Name: Tiffiany Procedure Type: Gastric sleevectomy Age: 30 Starting weight: 472 Surgery weight: 401 Current weight: 275-279 Goal weight: 180(I’d really be content at 195 lmao) What prompted you to make the decision to go for wls? In January 2015 I stepped on the scale and it said 472lbs which is a weight I’d never…

Read More

All the Ways I Plan to Treat Myself – 4 Cheap Ways to Self Care

Recovery has been an absolute draaaag albeit necessary.  I have slid back into my 9-5 though thanks to the graciousness of my boss; I am working from home. I almost sorta kinda miss my desk; but hubby has rearranged our bedroom to include a little office space for moi. I thank God everyday for a…

Read More

Follow the Yellow Brick Road: Self Esteem After Rape

As the idea began to formulate in my mind how to address this topic; I found myself trying to decide between sexual assault or rape. I don’t know why I was so caught up on which word to use; perhaps because it makes me cringe to say either or. I don’t talk about my rape…

Read More

Things Looking Up

That’s right! The awful wait is over and ya girl is fabulously cancer free! I don’t think I can ever adequately describe the fear that enveloped my mind at the thought of having cancer of any sort. I briefly discussed it here. I tried my best to take the “wait and see” approach and to…

Read More

Note to the Depressed: ARMOUR Method

This morning I found myself having a conversation with a dear friend of mine whom I’ve known for over 10 years now. This conversation was prompted by a post I made: This prompted an impromptu dialogue between both of us. During that conversation she expressed her thoughts about her own struggle with depression. The things…

Read More

Dummies Guide to Depression: 6 Basic Facts

I know, I know; it would seem absurd that in this day and age that I would even need to make a plea like this. You would think with all the resources and statistics available, people would understand that depression is not simply “the blues”, or a normal sadness or a “white people’s” disease. Yet,…

Read More