Grieving During a Pandemic Is NORMAL

When COVID-19 began to circulate in the news and rapidly reach pandemic status; many of us were stunned. After all, with so many different interpretations of what was going on with this virus, much of the world didn’t know what to think.

Now We’re Here

Whether we were prepared or not; pandemic status became our reality. This left the world in disarray and disbelief. Lives were lost, plans were halted, schools were closed, jobs were lost, businesses had to cease operating in their normal manner and the trickle down effect has continued.

The subsequent fallout from COVID-19 pandemic has been felt across the globe. For those of us who are fortunate enough to have access to relative safety, clean water and other essentials; it may feel silly to feel any sadness in contrast to those who are in more dire situations.

But is it silly?

Your Feelings Are Valid

It isn’t silly.

It is perfectly normal to acknowledge that someone else’s situation may be worse than yours and even have gratitude for your own circumstances. However, this does not negate the real feelings of grief or sadness you maybe feeling in response to your own COVID-19 fallout.

I wrestled with so much guilt as this all began because I was super sad we weren’t going on a family vacation. I felt guilty for feeling sad when I knew that we were doing pretty decent in comparison to others. This guilt led to heightened anxiety because I wasn’t allowing myself to feel my feelings.

Acknowledge What You Feel

The week of April 6th my family and I were scheduled to go to Panama City Beach , Fl. That might not seem extravagant to some, and honestly it wasn’t. But it wasn’t about extravagance. My family and I hadn’t vacationed in a couple of years. My kids are only getting older and hubby and I decided this is what we wanted to do to create more memories.

We planned, we spent and we were so excited especially because where we were going was a surprise to the kids. It meant something to me to do this. When I hit the cancel & refund button, I felt my heart drop.

As the close to our canceled vacation week came, I finally let myself cry. I cried to my husband, I cried to God and I just let it out. I even found myself praying about other things that were balled up in these emotions that I was trying to not feel.

Do Not Apologize for Your Feelings

Your feelings are yours whether anyone else understands them, agrees with them or cares for them. God granted us the ability to feel emotion. Loss, no matter how small or large can translate to grief. Grieving is a process and is different for everyone.

Do not apologize for grieving during a time that is creating a sense of loss in a very literal and metaphorical way right now.

Maintaining a Routine is Not Silly

For many of us who are creatives, artists, bloggers, influencers etc.; our choice to continue to photoshoot or post may seem tone deaf. However, for many of us, maintaining some sort of normalcy is so helpful to nurturing our mental health.

Everyone deals in their own way whether its through laughter, music, creating, modeling or whatever else. Do not shame anyone for coping how they decide to cope especially if it doesn’t harm anyone.

Humans are multifaceted and can certainly appreciate the seriousness of our current circumstances while choosing healthy ways to cope even if it’s not what you would do.

The Wrap Up

There is no one way to experience this global pandemic. We are all struggling to adjust and adapt to a new normal. Show compassion for others and also for yourself. If your faith compels you; keep in prayer and nurture not only your physical and emotional well being but your spiritual health as well.

Remember that coping and healing are not linear. It is ok to feel human in a very inhumane time.

Lots of love,